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Choral Potpourri: Choral Ethics; Bein’ Highfalutin

September 29, 2016 -

“It is impossible, in our condition of Society, not to be sometimes a Snob.” William Makepeace Thackeray Recently, I’ve become aware I am being referred to as Highfalutin, an Elitist, and a Snob. All those things are, apparently, bad things. In my own work, I suppose I am a bit

Hi fellow directors. I just got in from choir rehearsal and I need to vent and ask for some guidance. Next year I will have been in church music for 30 years, so I think I am pretty experienced. I am at a smaller Methodist church, so the choir is not big. I have choir members skipping rehearsals, saying "I have to work Sunday, so I will not be at rehearsal", I have family plans, etc....you get the point. We have started working on our Christmas music which will be done on Dec. 4th. Can someone gives me advice or direction on how to nicely but firmly tell the choir members that they need to be here. It is like they do not realize that we work on music for a month out. Some churches I have served, I had an attendance policy, but do not think it will work in this situation because I do not have that many voices. I have thought about sending out a letter letting them know what is expected as a choir member without turning anyone off or piss anyone off. Thanks for listening to my frustration and me ranting. Any advice would be so accepted. David Dillard ... See MoreSee Less

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Caitlín Ní CheallaighAfter every rehearsal go out for pie, coffee, & David/choir time. Everyone will look forward to that... 😉

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Renée Wilson-WickerThere are many ways to go after this. I think aiming toward the pastoral side of how the music ministers to congregation, how we as singers owe our best efforts to God and each other, etc. and that can only happen when we commit our talents and time in rehearsal. Our rehearsals give us the opportunity to glorify God. These are off the cuff thoughts, but it may help provide a direction or inspire an even better idea.

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Tom KlonglerNothing wrong with good 'ol Christian guilt :) Jesus WANTS YOU to come to rehearsal and sing his praise :-D

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Austen WilsonIf they have to work or have a family emergency, there's not much to do. Work on getting communication from them ahead of time. I've had bell choir rehearsals where I've found out that day that a number of ringers couldn't make it. Would I prefer more consistent attendance? Yes! Am I even more thankful they're participating? You better believe it!

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Vanessa Davis NormanIt is frustrating and, unfortunately, how people live their lives now. I am missing several people on a regular basis. I was hired July 1 at a good-sized church. People are not committed like they were years ago. I have no clue how to curb excuses.

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Marcia HempelI would try to be patient. Maybe schedule some extra rehearsals or make a practice CD for the person who can't come very much. Even do easier music if you have to. But you need to be able to express how you feel too. But whoever you have, you want to keep.

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Maestra DeMúsica DivnickHave a heart to heart with them! Most of your members are there because they have a desire to be there (unlike some of the kids in school who are assigned to choir), so you can say to them "listen, I picked this music based on who I have in the choir, but if the choir's membership is different every weekend, then the music won't work." You can ask them to prayerfully consider their commitment to the group, reminding them (of course), that every voice is important and you hope that they all truly can commit, and that the ministry of choir is vital, because w/o music, the church service is quite bland and boring (or however you want to sell it). Or, you can go the positive praise / community building route and each week, say "Oh Nancy, I'm so glad you're here again! We really depend on you in choir. ...Hey, has anyone heard from Bill?" It depends on your personality, of course, as to which one will come off the most sincere and authentic. Good luck - it's definitely a frustrating situation to put so much effort into a group and get a tepid response.

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Kenneth PotterHire professional section leaders. They can carry it off if no one else is there. If your church is the slightest bit uppity mobile they will be late, absent, off on a caribbean cruise, leave you in the lurch. A quartet of dependables will always save your bacon.

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Betsy Baeskens GiriI am not in the church music world, but am curious if interested singers, before joining, are given a written list of norms and/or expectations, and an agreement to sign? Maybe that sort of thing isn't done in church choirs, but I, for one, always do better when I know exactly what is expected of me. To my mind, it is just common courtesy, respect, and decency to honor commitments....maybe they really don't know how much it matters that everyone is there at the same time. Sorry for your frustration.

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Jed LevineMeet with the whole group to establish a covenant that all can/will agree to. Emphasize that their responsibility is not only to you but to each other and to the congregation they serve.

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Howell Riano Punay

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Richard HugginsMake a DVD. Start w a close up of you (and accomp) rehearsing something. As the cam pulls back we see that no one is there! Cross fade to you at your desk laughingly saying something "ok , that was kinda extreme, but...." and then go on to talk about the imp of strong reh attendance, working on several services each week, etc Also strengthen the fellowship aspect with occasional choir parties, carve out some after-rehearsal fellowship ("Cakes My Momma Taught Me") etc. so that they just wouldn't want to miss. A card to absentees (NOT emails) is work but delivers the message that they were noted and missed and has a personal touch.

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